Gists: I am not the type of guy that would ever want to break up a marraige but im so deeply in love with this woman which makes me want her to leave her husband

 Dear Starrygists.com Readers, a friend send this to us .It all started when i began to see her at my gym on Saturdays. at the private gym I used to work at. She began texting me flirty messages and kept wanting to see me outside of thegym after Saturday aerobics. Now this had been going on for about 6 months, I kept making excuses but finally I gave in to seeing her and that's when this all took off. We began being intimate and that's when she started to shower me with expensive gifts ,  an IPhone,  a very expensive replica Rolex, not the real Hong but friends say that replica is very expensive,  although they do not know how I acquired it. Lovely pairs of trainers and male gym clothe.  She recently changed my gym bag to a more classy more complete designer bag, getaways, fancy dinners in hidden PH  spots.  etc. For the first 3 years i really was just having fun with it because there was no commitment involved.

At the three year mark though she told me she wants more from me and is so in love with me that she wants to spend the rest of her life with me. Now this hit me hard because we have many challenges in front of us. I am 25 years old and she is 40 year's old with two boys. Everyday  I thought about these challenges, but as the third year went by i finally told myself i cant lose her. I explained to her i am ready to give you my all. I became so in love with her that I was finally ready to give her what she wanted. We came to an agreement that she would cause a fight and move out after the Christmas holidays to make it easier on the kids.

 Now that the holidays are over she has told me she is second guessing everything and isnt ready to leave her husband and kids. She says its only fair for her to see if she can love her husband in that way again. The toughest part about all of this is how she kept telling me that she needs more from me. I feel as though i have been led on which breaks my heart because i truly am in love with her and can't picture my life without her. 

So, finally today we spoke and she told me we should not talk anymore or else that will make things hard for us. She also thinks if i am out of the picture she will be able to realize if she can be intimate with her husband again. I am not the type of guy that would ever want to break up a marraige but I'm so deeply in love with her which makes me want her to leave her husband. I am deeply confused, heart broken, and depressed about all this. I have asked myselfmsome questions: Was she just playing with my emotions this whole time? Did she just want attention from a younger man? Did she truly know she was never going to leave her family for me? How do i cope with all this and get over her?  It's so hard for me. When I  broke up with my girlfriend, it wasn't half this hard I swear.